Bad at Meditation

The cat meditates where I do


Let me first say that I am not an expert on meditation. I might even say I’m bad at it, but that is the point of what I have to say. I don’t think you can be bad at it if you are practicing at all. And I mean at all. If you sit once a week for 10 minutes and just breath in and out that’s something. Any meditation is better than none.

Of the many preconceptions about meditation is the pose. A full lotus position is not required. I can only dream of crossing my legs like that. A chair, a seiza bench are good, even lying down can be OK. A straight back is a good idea, but if you find that difficult due to body issues or the time and place you have to meditate, do the best you can. I like anywhere outside the best.

Another preconception is that meditation is hard or hard work. But almost everybody already meditates without being aware of it or even trying. Eckhardt Tolle and Thich Nhat Hanh talk about the idea that everyone already meditates. Sometimes it’s more about allowing something to happen than forcing anything. Take the time, just sit.

Thoughts may come and go, and that is OK. Master Li has told us to acknowledge the thought and just say “bye bye” to the thought. I have also heard the suggestion that you let the thought flow by like jetsam on a river. I like that thought.

My best hint is – smile. It actually does physically act to relax you and make you feel happier.

When I have difficulty with too many thoughts and what is called “the monkey mind,” I will look for a guided meditation. I have a CD from Dr Weil that has a few. I have tried the Deepak Chopra meditation 21 day challenge as well. There are quite a few online too. Just Google “guided meditation.”(or use any search engine) There are many on YouTube. Everyone is different and different meditations may be better for different people. We all change from day to day and what isn’t successful one time might be the next.

Just do it!


13 thoughts on “Bad at Meditation

  1. I agree that meditation isn’t hard to do, but to really do it right takes sooo much practice. Clearing my mind is still something I’ve been unable to accomplish. I guess I’ll keep cracking at it. Mahalo for the excellent post!

    1. I don’t think a perfectly quiet mind is necessary. It is a great goal, but if you can accept that the thoughts are there and let the thoughts go by that is amazingly successful.

  2. “Just sit” and a quiet mind are SO difficult. But I try to accomplish this on a daily basis…to just sit…and smell the plumeria. 🙂 Thanks for the reminder.

    1. As I said to Mauiberg It is a great goal, but if you can accept that the thoughts are there and let the thoughts go by that is amazingly successful.

  3. Excellent way to think about it!

    I think there are many forms of meditation just as you so eloquently suggested . One of mine is to a mantra series I say while sitting by the ocean, paddling in an outrigger, or sitting in lotus and a lot of other places too.

    I breath in and breathe out with each phrase.

    Health Healing
    Prosperity Abundance
    Love Connection
    I am Sorry Forgive Me
    Thank You I Love You
    Free Spirit

    It has done wonders for the amount of time I spend in mediation and these words are becoming infused.
    It’s a wonderful thing.

  4. I do a morning meditation most mornings but sometimes end up doing it in the afternoon or later in the day. I try not to beat myself up if I don’t do it that day, and get back on the boat the next day. It’s a talking meditation – longer than JT Clough’s, and it helps to “frame” my day. I’ve done 40 minute sitting meditations in silence, and those are tricky!

    1. Nice to see you last night. 40 minute meditations are sometimes more than tricky but just occasionally they don’t seem that difficult — near bliss!

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